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Post by zombie on Feb 1, 2016 20:34:13 GMT -5
i don't really know what to say. *hug* No worries. I know it's not something people can say much about as its hard to go through, but it does help me in ways to just write out stuff. Kind of clears my thought process, and it is nice to just chat about stuff. My dad and sister are both very closed people, we can't really have "the chat " about the end, so it puts you in a strange artificial environment. Like we do say that things suck, but we don't actively want to talk about it. uh huh. it's tough. i get how your family feels. just want to shut down to better get through it. i do think that all of you should talk about it, when/if they're ready. don't force it on to them. and we're always here to talk to/listen, whenever you need it. i didn't mean to come off as cold or anything.
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Post by Sebastian Taro Groth on Feb 1, 2016 20:49:18 GMT -5
No worries. I know it's not something people can say much about as its hard to go through, but it does help me in ways to just write out stuff. Kind of clears my thought process, and it is nice to just chat about stuff. My dad and sister are both very closed people, we can't really have "the chat " about the end, so it puts you in a strange artificial environment. Like we do say that things suck, but we don't actively want to talk about it. uh huh. it's tough. i get how your family feels. just want to shut down to better get through it. i do think that all of you should talk about it, when/if they're ready. don't force it on to them. and we're always here to talk to/listen, whenever you need it. i didn't mean to come off as cold or anything. Not cold at all, my friend. I will get my dad and sister to discuss it with me, but everyone has to have it happen at their own pace. Otherwise it gets more awkward.
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Post by Dream on Feb 1, 2016 23:46:16 GMT -5
we're always here if you want to talk. Glad you know that and I hope things go as well as possible for you and your family.
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Post by Sebastian Taro Groth on Feb 2, 2016 15:37:42 GMT -5
Thanks Dream, you guys are my biggest crutch through all this outside of Ceri. Couldn't do it without you all.
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Post by Sebastian Taro Groth on Feb 26, 2016 13:14:40 GMT -5
Hey HMF, haven't checked in for a while. Been a tough old time of it.
My mother passed away on Sunday 21 February, at around 5 PM. I've been dealing with other things since, and hence not checked back in.
Thanks for all the nice messages before, and I'll be back in a bit. Just got a lot to process.
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Post by Reign in Blood on Feb 26, 2016 15:07:43 GMT -5
Sorry to hear, my man. Condolences to you and your family.
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Post by zombie on Feb 26, 2016 15:11:59 GMT -5
sorry to hear that. condolences, seb.
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Post by Jason on Feb 26, 2016 15:33:35 GMT -5
Wish there was more to offer than condolences. We're here for you.
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Post by Monster on Feb 26, 2016 20:52:19 GMT -5
Sorry to hear that, Seb.
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Post by Jason on Feb 26, 2016 21:03:52 GMT -5
Been thinking about you all day today, buddy.
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Post by Ava on Feb 28, 2016 21:25:16 GMT -5
Hey HMF, haven't checked in for a while. Been a tough old time of it. My mother passed away on Sunday 21 February, at around 5 PM. I've been dealing with other things since, and hence not checked back in. Thanks for all the nice messages before, and I'll be back in a bit. Just got a lot to process. Seb So sorry Seb.
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Post by DancesWithWerewolves on Feb 28, 2016 21:55:43 GMT -5
Hey HMF, haven't checked in for a while. Been a tough old time of it. My mother passed away on Sunday 21 February, at around 5 PM. I've been dealing with other things since, and hence not checked back in. Thanks for all the nice messages before, and I'll be back in a bit. Just got a lot to process. Seb So sorry to hear this duder.
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Post by Dream on Feb 28, 2016 23:29:30 GMT -5
sorry for your loss, Seb
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Post by Sebastian Taro Groth on Feb 29, 2016 19:21:58 GMT -5
Thank you all for the kind thoughts. It's helped. A lot of people have gotten in touch, both old and new friends alike, over this, which has been very nice. Just wish I had more HMF time. Hopefully I will soon enough, in my last 2 weeks at the job. Mom's funeral is on 18 March, in a few weeks time. Trying to pick stuff up for the funeral, get things ready. Harder than one may have thought, picking music and flowers and stuff.
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Post by Reign in Blood on Feb 29, 2016 19:29:54 GMT -5
Definitely harder than you imagine, as especially with the loss so fresh in the hearts and mind, it's just not what you want to be doing. But it's gotta be done in a timely manner, one of the more harsher facts of life.
How's your Dad and sister holding up?
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Post by Sebastian Taro Groth on Feb 29, 2016 19:38:57 GMT -5
Definitely harder than you imagine, as especially with the loss so fresh in the hearts and mind, it's just not what you want to be doing. But it's gotta be done in a timely manner, one of the more harsher facts of life. How's your Dad and sister holding up? Think sister is struggling a bit with how to show emotions over it, so trying to keep it all to herself. Dad is a lot more emotional/teary but getting better and better it seems. It seems to hit us at different times. Me, when I wrote my last facebook post/tribute to my mother, that was difficult. Dad seems to struggle more every time he has to tell people on the phone more than anything, but that's getting better. Looking through photos is hard for all of us I think, but also sometimes really nice to remember. Funeral is already getting quite in the stile of mom. Getting one of the artists she collaborated with/brought to Japan to paint her coffin. That'll be unique.
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Post by Reign in Blood on Feb 29, 2016 19:45:38 GMT -5
Definitely harder than you imagine, as especially with the loss so fresh in the hearts and mind, it's just not what you want to be doing. But it's gotta be done in a timely manner, one of the more harsher facts of life. How's your Dad and sister holding up? Think sister is struggling a bit with how to show emotions over it, so trying to keep it all to herself. Dad is a lot more emotional/teary but getting better and better it seems. It seems to hit us at different times. Me, when I wrote my last facebook post/tribute to my mother, that was difficult. Dad seems to struggle more every time he has to tell people on the phone more than anything, but that's getting better. Looking through photos is hard for all of us I think, but also sometimes really nice to remember. Funeral is already getting quite in the stile of mom. Getting one of the artists she collaborated with/brought to Japan to paint her coffin. That'll be unique. Yeah, having to make those phone calls, not an envious task. Oh, painted coffin, unique indeed. I like that idea.
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Post by Tiggnutz on Feb 29, 2016 19:49:26 GMT -5
That's horrible Seb I don't even know what to say.
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Post by Sebastian Taro Groth on Mar 1, 2016 3:56:09 GMT -5
Think sister is struggling a bit with how to show emotions over it, so trying to keep it all to herself. Dad is a lot more emotional/teary but getting better and better it seems. It seems to hit us at different times. Me, when I wrote my last facebook post/tribute to my mother, that was difficult. Dad seems to struggle more every time he has to tell people on the phone more than anything, but that's getting better. Looking through photos is hard for all of us I think, but also sometimes really nice to remember. Funeral is already getting quite in the stile of mom. Getting one of the artists she collaborated with/brought to Japan to paint her coffin. That'll be unique. Yeah, having to make those phone calls, not an envious task. Oh, painted coffin, unique indeed. I like that idea. We're trying add as much of the fun that was mom to her funeral as would be considered respectful. Obviously don't want clowns and whoopee cushions or anything, but given how colourful in life she was, it would seem odd to have everyone dressed in black and just have plain flowers etc. So we're seeing what we can within reason add to this thing.
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Post by Sebastian Taro Groth on Mar 1, 2016 3:56:29 GMT -5
That's horrible Seb I don't even know what to say. It's ok, I appreciate the thought.
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